Last Updated on May 15, 2023
“India will change you forever”, I would hear over and over again as soon as we announced we would travel to India. “Really?”, I thought incredulously, “what could possibly have such an impact on me there?” I had traveled through Central America and South East Asia, and had encountered extreme poverty, dysfunctional cities, violence and fear. I didn’t think that anything could still shock me after the things I had already seen, from the child beggars in Guatemala to the limping stray dogs in Nicaragua and the in-your-face sex tourism in Cambodia.
But nothing prepares you for India. Nothing prepares you for the intense smells, the chaos that ensues when a herd of cows decides to take a stroll along a busy highway, the crazy traffic and the constant honking, the homeless people sleeping on sidewalks, not dozens, but hundreds of them, or the dead bodies you’ll see. You can’t block out the begging ladies who seem a hundred years old and look at you with those heartbreakingly sad eyes while they shyly beg you for money with their palms pleadingly open, and by the village kids that run around dirt roads in just underwear and without shoes because they don’t have anything.
India is a lot to take in. And India is hard to take. Even though you might read this now thinking ‘I feel like I know what to expect when I go there’, when you get there, India will knock you off your feet.
I might have painted a pretty bleak picture of India so far, so let me correct this. I did not hate India – quite on the contrary: I loved traveling in India. While many scenes you’ll experience in on a daily basis – the countless stray animals, the beggars, the crazy train rides, the deformations on people’s bodies – are hard to digest, especially in such a huge concentration, there are equally as many things that will amaze you.
The incredibly diverse scenery for one, which ranges from deserts and mountains in the north to tropical beaches in Goa and the barren moon-like scenery around Hampi. The ornate, grand and mystifying temples, the scrumptious food that bursts with flavors, the wonderfully welcoming people were all things that made me fall in love with India.
Some travelers find it annoying to be stared at or even have their hair touched, but I have to say that I was equally as enticed by the large families I met. Especially the women, all dressed up in colorful saris, painted with henna tattoos, wearing golden little jewels or bindis on their foreheads, and eye-catching golden jewelry hanging from their wrists, necks and sometimes noses, fascinated me just as much as I fascinated them, the light skinned girl with the bright blonde hair. While they wanted to feel my ‘yellow’ hair, I wanted to run my fingers through their thick black hair. The timid smiles and curious looks, and how we tried to communicate despite their limited English to find out more about each others lives are encounters I wouldn’t want to miss.
Traveling India will change your perspective on the smallest details in your own life. For one, I just cannot complain about anything in my life anymore – no matter how hard something might seem in a specific moment, I am blessed with a great life, a passport that lets me travel anywhere in the world without any bureaucratic hassle – the fact alone that I am able to travel!
Seeing the families in Hampi, a sacred site for Hindus which they are supposed to visit at least once in their lives, who have never left their village before but saved every penny to could to make the trip there, sleeping in the streets and living off cheap street food, made me feel ashamed about my complaints about the too thin mattress on the bed in our basic yet clean $3 per night guesthouse. Back home in their villages these pilgrims usually don’t have running water or a solid, concreted floor in their house. Everywhere I traveled in India I saw women with big buckets on their heads, on their way to a well to get the water they needed to do laundry and dishes.
When I was stuck on an overcrowded train that for the first time I realized what cattle class actually means, with one person in our group in tears and the rest of us on the verge of them, I couldn’t help but think “I am so glad that I don’t have to do that every day”. But it is the reality for hundreds of millions of Indians. I watched women doing dishes and laundry in dirty river water where at the same time an elephant released himself while being bathed; men were shaving and women washing their hair, because this natural ‘pool’ is the only ‘tub’ they have.
And there I was, complaining that our guesthouse didn’t have hot water. These things just stick with you, and you’ll never take anything for granted anymore: running water, hot water, a toilet with a flush button instead of a bucket of water to flush with, and being able to drink water from a tap. Comfy beds, a kitchen, a washing machine, a dish washer and other appliances seem somewhat absurd after what you see in India.
Traveling in India changes your perspective on everything, and makes the things you complain about in your daily life seem pretty laughable. I came back a different person than the one I was before, and I can’t wait to go back to India. Because if you are willing to put up with the strenuous aspects of the country, you’ll be rewarded with the most memorable travel experience of your life.
Have you had any life changing travel experiences? And what would you say are the best places to visit in India for someone looking for a similar experience?
Viresh Sinha
Tuesday 30th of January 2024
I migrated to US from India in 1998, I was 26 at that time, I had been back to india, several times, but only for a couple of weeks at a time. In April of 2022, after losing my mother, had lost my father already in 2005, I visited India, and planned to stay there for a couple of months. But I had similar experienxe as other travelers here, and ended up staying there for 13 months. Although I am originally for Delhi, but in my trip I traveled to places where I had not been before. That trip changed me forever, now I am back in US, but I am planning to move back to India permanently in few years.
Shamz
Monday 19th of February 2018
Hello Danny, Wrote wonderfully about our country. Great work.
Donna M. Brown
Friday 5th of May 2017
Every country have some these type of problem but i think you see only wrong things in India. India is great country i love to be there :)
Surya
Wednesday 20th of January 2016
Hai Dany.... It's Very interesting blog. Thanks for visited to India. I am from Karnataka and by seeing the pictures I think you have just visited the northern part of Karnataka and may experienced dirtiness. I will also suggest you to travel south part.
Better you visit semi-urban and rural part to have great experience. I am very happy to any kind of help to you.
Vijay
Monday 19th of October 2015
Hello Dany,
Thanks for such a good article. I heard the same comment from my other international friends also. I an Indian, but being an Indian hardly we see the India. Sometime I get to know new facts about India from international friends or the travel blogs.I m from middle part of India near Mumbai and I can say that I don't know much about cultural stuff of North East India or Extreme North West part.
When I do travel in India I do face problems in Language, food and Cultural differences. Everytime there will be new learning from me.
Thanks for visiting India again, hope you will visit multiple times. Currently I am located in New Delhi. So would love to host you for lunch or Dinner whenever you Visit India or especially Delhi.
Dani
Tuesday 20th of October 2015
Thanks, Vijay! It'd be great to have dinner when I make it back to India - which I hope is soon!! I still have so much more of your country to see... the entire north, for example!